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DID YOU KNOW..?
This is the original drawing of the logo, drawn by Dad in 1982. It is the Foraise emblem and portrays the Alton family crest. The A's in the circle represent The Four Alton's, as it was... Dad, Michele, Nik and me. 
UPDATE: On Wednesday 19 October 2011, I had the family crest image as a tattoo on my arm. It was my first tattoo ever and I'm proud of it. The Certo Ceto words were replaced with Dad's birth and death dates.
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DID YOU KNOW..?
Dad introduced me (Wayne) to so many varied types of music including Mantovani, José Feliciano, James Galway, Shirley Bassey, Matt Monro and a great deal of The Royal Philharmonic Orchestera.

       

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Old vintage photos of Dad Photos of Dad Flowers

DID YOU KNOW..?
Dad had many phrases that he used often and one of them was "Tempus Fugit." By coincidence, those very words are written on the face of the grandfather clock he bought in 2005. It was also the basis of Wayne's eighth tattoo that he had designed and is on his left forearm, accompanied with a pocket watch. < click on the image to the right for the full image >

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I REMEMBER...
One time when Mum and I tried to give him a haircut because his hair was so long but he refused to go to the barbers or pay for anyone to cut it so we had a go.... Well you can just imagine what poor Grandad looked like after letting us loose with the scissors. We looked at him after we finished and thought; omg. What have we done?! Luckily Grandad saw the funny side of it and we all ended up in stitches ~ Zoe


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IS IN PLACE

Friday 23 May 2008
Wendy from the crematorium called today whilst I was out running an errand or two, to let me know that the boulder had arrived. She added that it would be put in to place, in one of the remembrance circles. Jezz and I took a drive over there and took a couple of photos of it.
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DID YOU KNOW..?
Dad ran a café in the 1970's at Elm Road, New Malden, the very street where he was born.


 

Where are you now, my Daddy?

Where are you now, my Daddy?
I went to phone you again, today
I needed help with a long word
Oh well, never mind, aye?

Where are you now, my Daddy?
I need the sound of your laughter
Can you hear my jokes still?
I still say them, but there's no sound after

Where are you now, my Daddy?
Please try and give me a sign
I'm not doing that well without you
Just a 'hello mate' would do fine

Where are you now, my Daddy?
Why do I feel so lost and alone?
I can't go on without you to guide me
Or driving to Tesco's on my own

Where are you now, my Daddy?
Are you looking? Am I making you proud?
If you could just give me a signal
A sound or a shape in a cloud

Where are you now, my Daddy?
Will this empty feeling ever end?
I sit here cold and lonely
With a broken heart that will never mend

~ Wayne Alton (27 April 2008) ~

 

DID YOU KNOW..?
One of Dad's cars was the Ford Zodiac Executive Mk. IV.

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ORDER OF SERVICE DAD - THANK YOU
This is the finished order of service book.
You can download a copy of it here.
A son's tribute to his father.
This was the script used for Wayne's eulogy.

DAD'S ENTRY IN TO THE BOOK OF REMEMBRENCE
This is the entry that has been entered in the Kingston's Book of Remembrence in 2009.


I REMEMBER...
Being round at Grandad's, he'd be sitting in the armchair, snoring. I'd say: "Grandad...Grandad, you asleep..? Grandad?" Then he'd jump and say: "No. No, I was resting my eyes!" ~ Zoe


DID YOU KNOW..?
Dad's favourite song of all time was Baker Street by Gerry Rafferty. His favourite classical piece was O Mio Babbino Carro by Montserrat Caballe and his other favourite pop songs included I Love To Love (But My Baby Loves To Dance) by Tina Charles, Convoy by C.W. McCall and The Hustle by Van McCoy & The Soul City Symphony.


SAD WITHOUT DAD THAT’S WHAT LIFE’S LIKE NOW,
WITHOUT DAD HERE

He was the force that dried my tears
He was the comfort of all my fears
When I think of all I had
I am left so sad, without Dad

Sitting, staring at the screen
Without him, where have I been?
With him alive, I felt only glad
Now it’s only sad, without Dad

It’s not just him that has gone
It’s the strength I had for so long
The order that kept me from going mad
That reminds me now why I’m sad, without Dad

Wonderful memories caress my heart
They mend and stop me from falling apart
I think again of all I had
Only then, is it not so sad, without Dad

Wayne Alton (22 June 2008)

Like one leg without a crutch
Or a feel without a touch
Or perhaps Starsky without Hutch
Is how I miss Dad so very much

To be a pair of shoes without the heels
Or a café that serves no meals
A chauffeured car yet no wheels
And without Dad, that’s how it feels

Oh, I’ve got the cuddle, but no teddy bear
I have the thrill of the rides but no fun fair
A never-ending road yet going nowhere
That’s what it’s like without Dad there

A group of cheerleaders, silent without cheer
Alone sat at the bar in a pub with no beer
A sad song and a hankie, but without a tear
That’s what life’s like now, without Dad here

Oh I could have a life of luxury and no debts to pay
To spend the rest of my life having my own way
But when I think of you Dad, d’you know what I say?
I’d give it all up in an instant, to have you back for one day

Wayne Alton (14 October 2008)

WAS THAT YOU LAST NIGHT? SEVENTH CHRISTMAS WITHOUT YOU DAD
Was that you last night?
It did give me quite a fright
A strong yet gentle breeze
That started way down at my knees

It then gradually came up to my face
It was at a constant and steady pace
It was an unusual breeze of air
Unlike any I’d felt before, sat there

It’s just, and I don’t mean to be rude
But if that was a sign, it can be so misconstrued
I’m longing to know and feel that you are there
If you are then why am I still so unaware?

I’ve been without you for a whole year now
How I have managed I just don’t know how
But then listening to music that reminds me of you
Has both brought on and held back a tear or two

And with each day I look up at your face
Hoping, yet knowing you’re in a much better place
Instead of this vile, decaying world so rotten
Where great men like you are so readily forgotten

Dad, you’re the last of the best, that’s for sure
They really don’t make them like you anymore

Wayne Alton (9 May 2009)

This is our 7th Christmas without you Dad
I said a few years back I ain’t doing so well
But it’s the real reason why I am so sad
I try to hide it… and I think they can’t tell

I feel the emptiness you felt back then
When Betty died that Christmas Eve
Will I feel happiness at Christmas ever again?
Will this ache in my heart ever leave?

They say: “Stop living in the past! It’s time to let go,
Get on with your life and move on”
But they didn’t have a Dad like you, so what do they know?
Besides, thinking of you helps me along!

So wherever you are, Merry Christmas Dad
You’re not forgotten in my heart or my head
And when I think of all the things that I once had
I forget them all and think of you instead

Wayne Alton 
Christmas Eve, 2014

A CATCH UP CHAT WITH DAD  

Hiya Pops, how’s it going?
“How’s yer bum for spots?” What cha’ knowin’
It’s been eight years now, did you know?
Blimey, where does the time all go?

Do you remember that sweet wrapper you made?
I’ve still got it and while colours fade
The shape and the folds remain
M for Michele, N for Nik and W for Wayne

Well it gave me an idea or two
I created a design from it and had a tattoo
It’s just down from the other one I had done
It’s of your signature, I love that one

I was talking with Zoe about you last week, as you do
She’s got some fun and lovely memories of you
She recalled some of the funny sayings you had
Such an odd feeling… laughing while feeling sad

Oh and Dad, I went to the crematorium the other week
Sorry I haven’t been in a while, it did look a bit bleak
But I refreshed the flowers and cleaned the plaque
And did my usual walking away but looking back

I haven't spoken to you since Aunty Gwen passed away
That was another sad and mournful day
But I hope you got to hear my eulogy I read out
I can’t be sure but I reckon you were about

Well the move went ok and we’ve settled in now
We got here in the end but I don’t know how
Don’t know what you’d think of shoes off at the door
No smoking outside, let alone indoors!

Hey, Dad… you’d be proud, I’m looking after your tools
Everything in its place… the household rules
And although your shrine has reduced just a tad
There’s keepsakes of you around so it’s not so bad

And have you seen me at the gym, trying to keep fit?
It’s not helping me fitness much and I ache quite a bit
And I’m not noticing much change on me weekly weigh-in
But if you’re there watching… I know what you’re saying

‘Cos remember what you’d say when we were out and about?
An old bloke in shorts running by, all puffed out
Instead of us admiring his concerns for his health
You’d say aloud: “The silly sod… he’ll kill himself”

Anyway, just wanted to say hi and that I still think of you dear
There’s not a day goes by that I don’t have you near
Right me old man, I’ll be off now then
Speak to you again soon, TTFN

Wayne Alton (14 April 2016)

 

DID YOU KNOW..?
Dad bought a single doughnut every Monday morning, in Tesco, without fail.


DID YOU KNOW..?
Ellen, a customer from Tesco's, Purley, Surrey, gave commiserations today, 16 June 2008, by adding; "he was a lovely man... one of life's gentlemen."
UPDATE: That line still makes me tearful... every time I read it.


I REMEMBER...
I have a funny thought about Grandad at Christmastime when we would all go there and I used to watch him make vol-au-vents and his nose would drip in to them. I'd say: "Grandad, your nose just dripped in to the food" and he'd say: "Nonsense! Anyway, gives it a bit of flavour!" ~ Zoe


DID YOU KNOW..?
On 24 November 2014, I (Wayne) had my fourth tattoo. This time it was of Dad's signature and I had it on my left forearm. Dad had neat handwriting and he taught me calligraphy. I used it to create my signature.
< click on the image on the right for the full picture >

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I REMEMBER...
Grandad, Michele and I were all upstairs getting ready one morning when the 'Bartman' song came on (from the Simpsons). It was very popular then and it had a dance to go with it. So we all lined up in the hallway and did the Bartman dance going down the hall...It was so funny seeing Grandad do it ~ Zoe


I REMEMBER...
I remember a saying Russell always used, which I use today. He used to knock on the bedroom door when we were in there and say: "stop that horizontal jogging!" Always made me laugh and I used it with my kids when I thought they were up to no good! ~ Debbie


I REMEMBER...
He was a wonderful man, the few times I met him made me wish I had a relationship like yours with my dad - Tony


DID YOU KNOW..?
Wayne spent many years wanting a portrait of his Dad as a tattoo and finally, on 23 June 2018, he arranged it and Ben Hamill did the tattoo. It was from his tattoo studio, Duffy's in Farnborough, Surrey. It initially cost £450. < click on the image to the right for the full image >

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I REMEMBER...
I have so many wonderful memories of Russell. I still have pleasant dreams about him today - Pete